This is a good subject but a few points IMO to clarify.
Not all college degrees are equal. Get a dumb degree you can't pay for it! Get a good degree that gets you a good paying job, that's worth it. No college isn't required, there's other paths to success, even in a field that "requires" a degree. But the degree more easily opens options
$1m ain't that much. At $100k you will make $1m every 10 years. Many times those higher paying jobs comes with options to help you move ahead, things like 401k with matching money.
My wife and I went the college route, we met in college, both have multiple college engineering degrees, both had high paying jobs. We were married 3 years both working before we had kids. Sad part was daycare. Between cost (first son born in 1990) , my wife gave up her high paying engineering job , took a job at the daycare. Between free daycare and taxes it was about a financial breakeven. Sad.
We taught our kids early. Bust your ass in school. While nothing is given to you, good high school grades open options for college. Good college grades, in a good area, open options for your first job. After that it's 100% on your work history.
Wife and I also had a financial discussion about 20 years ago. I am as cheap as they come. We decided Between living like hermits and retiring at 50, go wild and maybe never retire, or bank on one fun family vacation a year and possibly retire early. Everything in moderation! We went middle of the road, maxed out any 401k matching we could, as money and salary grew we invested outside work, both for us and for college for kids. It worked. Retired at 58, both work part time now at "fun" jobs. Have 2 sons with college degrees, wifes and jobs. Both are college debt free. Both own houses
One son is a teacher, married to an OT and has 2 kids. His daycare is $2k a month. They prioritize family yi.e over immediate money.
Other son is a biotechnology guy, married to a biotechnology girl. They don't want kids, there cash flow is different, they go on cooler vacations and will very likely hit that millionaire thing earlier.
If either wanted college for a dumb degree we would have suggested something in the trades, that's a non college great path through life
All about choices. I am 1 of 4 kids. Only one with a college degree, only one retired
, or able to retire. One sibling is in the same career as me, but no college, despite him being 3 years older I am further along the career growth due to college. Other 2 siblings went different paths. All had the same options starting out. You are at the mercy of your choices in life