And the guilt of letting people down because you ran out of energy or simply forgot to do the thing you said you would. But that’s a different issue.
ADHD- Long overdue to deal with it
- Thread starter R.K.
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Definitely one of the hardest parts is how so many people don’t believe it’s real, especially in adults.
You can hang on for a long time, basically a lifetime. But, it often reaches a tipping a point.
My wife urged me to go talk to a therapist. I thought I was clinically depressed. I was angry all the time, tired all the time, unmotivated, forgetful. My sleep was terrible, had been for over decade. In hindsight, I had never been a good sleeper. But I was still remarkably functional and held down a great social life, a great job, and a great family. But the mask only holds for so long.
It really came to a head when I realized hunting alone had turned into this intense trigger of depression, exhaustion, and just simple sadness. The intense solitude and time alone with my utterly exhausted brain was borderline toxic for it.
I talked to my therapist about all of, in great detail. The episodes of depression and intense sadness while hunting. The looping spirals my brain would get stuck in. My daily exhaustion, lack of motivation, and lack of care that I was unmotivated and unable to start things.
It didn’t take long for her to suspect ADHD. I was very surprised. Only because I was expecting a clean and simple “yeah, you’re depressed.” She really didn’t see depression, maybe a little, she saw ADHD.
Then you look back across your entire life and it’s so obvious.
There is a period of mourning, honestly I’m still in it from time to time, where you wonder what you could’ve been had it been caught sooner - what kind of success, what kind of degrees, what kind of adventure, where might you be in life, and so on.
The grieving what could’ve been should be seriously acknowledged, it’s not something to trivialize. But I realized you need to acknowledge but then you have to bury it. You’re life brought you this point and made you who you are and you have an incredible life worth grieving. You now get to focus on how you are better equipped to enjoy your life to the fullest and make the most of it - looking forward, not backward.
Simply seeing an answer and a path forward changes everything.
You can hang on for a long time, basically a lifetime. But, it often reaches a tipping a point.
My wife urged me to go talk to a therapist. I thought I was clinically depressed. I was angry all the time, tired all the time, unmotivated, forgetful. My sleep was terrible, had been for over decade. In hindsight, I had never been a good sleeper. But I was still remarkably functional and held down a great social life, a great job, and a great family. But the mask only holds for so long.
It really came to a head when I realized hunting alone had turned into this intense trigger of depression, exhaustion, and just simple sadness. The intense solitude and time alone with my utterly exhausted brain was borderline toxic for it.
I talked to my therapist about all of, in great detail. The episodes of depression and intense sadness while hunting. The looping spirals my brain would get stuck in. My daily exhaustion, lack of motivation, and lack of care that I was unmotivated and unable to start things.
It didn’t take long for her to suspect ADHD. I was very surprised. Only because I was expecting a clean and simple “yeah, you’re depressed.” She really didn’t see depression, maybe a little, she saw ADHD.
Then you look back across your entire life and it’s so obvious.
There is a period of mourning, honestly I’m still in it from time to time, where you wonder what you could’ve been had it been caught sooner - what kind of success, what kind of degrees, what kind of adventure, where might you be in life, and so on.
The grieving what could’ve been should be seriously acknowledged, it’s not something to trivialize. But I realized you need to acknowledge but then you have to bury it. You’re life brought you this point and made you who you are and you have an incredible life worth grieving. You now get to focus on how you are better equipped to enjoy your life to the fullest and make the most of it - looking forward, not backward.
Simply seeing an answer and a path forward changes everything.
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