i dunno i have friends that pay for two days a week of nanny help
i really just think my point is that it seems i hear a lot of people say "ain't nobody raising my kids but me" when i thought the traditional saying was "it takes a village"
feels elitist and high horse when in reality they're at work from 6 am to 6 pm anyway most likely, so is it just mom raising the kids? or just dad and not mom? or it both in different roles?
my dad was gone at work every day from 5 am to 6 pm for basically the entirety of my childhood and sure as hell feel like he still raised me. mom goes back to work and i spend 3 pm to 6 pm alone with my brother when we're in 4-5th grade and beyond.
i'm basically trying to say that i don't see all this is as black and white while (and maybe i'm misinterpreting) others do.