When I first started reloading for my rem 700 I was getting a little bit of a sticky bolt. I found the chamber was a little rough from the factory. I polished it up with a high speed drill, shotgun cotton mop cleaning rod end, and Flitz polish. Just cleaned her up a little and lightly polished. Now I can shoot book max loads without any sticky bolt. I have no idea if this helps you at all, depends entirely on your gun. Maybe the factory ammo is inconsistent like you think, but a rougher chamber is just making you notice it?
I also had a rem 870 express that would chamber anything, and eject high brass 3s or 3.5s easy peasy, but alotta low brass cheap skeet shells would be stuck. I'd have to almost slam the butt down to get the thing to cycle. Same exact thing, i polished the rear 3/4" of the chamber now she cycles perfectly with anything.