I read the appellate court decision and dissent. It isn’t a question of if I think it is outrageous or not. Or even if agree or disagree with a side. The core dispute is about a longstanding law letting a kid 13 determine their medical care independently. If it gets to that point, I have failed as a parent.
It’s a longstanding law but also a reaction to Idaho?
Hey, keep Idaho out of this
Its a tough one. I know of a daughter of a former local legislator who waa very strictly religious, and his view of his faith held that being gay was a sin and something that could be prayed away.
Ageee to a point. I get how someone barely making it in retirement would search out lower cost states to live, for example. Most of the complainers praise states that get them in other ways though. Like low income taxes but sky high property taxes.
It’s not just one law being applied. It is actually three. The newest only deals with communication for those seeking gender affirmative care, which was a reaction to Idaho banning it. It is a complicated and far more complex case than either group screaming about trans rights. The case is about whether the parents have standing - ie proving they were harmed. Simply falling back on political views around genders is easy but misses the point.
I actually really hate this law, like it's one of the few counter points to my claim that most of the shit that passes doesn't actually affect me. This law prevents my complete access to my kids MyChart info, so I can't see any of their info, I can't make appointments, I can't confirm appointments as I frantically try to get them from school to one of the 42 different GD buildings Confluence Health has. And all because that law grants 13 yr olds the ability to make sexual and mental health care choices. Honestly I'm probably pretty okay with that, or at least would be okay with it if the child requested it, but I am still the one who handles all the other health issues and my kids are equally shocked/surprised that they now have to remember their MyChart login, remember when and who they're seeing, where the office is located, etc. it might be good for them in the long run but it's led to some incredibly frustrating days.
My feelings exactly. But like most laws, I find a way for it to affect me the least. I just try to remember what circumstances led to the law being created. Like I said, bad parenting. I make sure my kid feels she can come to us for anything. ANYTHING. Even if I may not understand or agree, I will listen and not be judgmental. So health decisions are still shared, even if she has her own Mychart.
Man the older I get the less objective "bad parenting" is. Says who? I think it's pretty arrogant of the state to think it's better. I also question if the good it offers to those very rare circumstances outweighs the bad for every other family.
This was a big hurdle for us in trying to help our daughter.
Fair point. I don't think the state thinks it is better. The laws are simply trying to avoid placing the child back in a dangerous environment. It's a mess, like every other state. Like you, I'm not really sure how I feel about the various laws. They are a bit of a pain but I can envision both good and bad outcomes. Even some where the law is followed but it may not be in the kid's best interest. The wife is ER and the stories from that cohort will definitely allow you insight into the nature of parenting these days. I don't pretend to know the solution. It's sad really. But like I said, it's the same in every state.
Stupid law. It’d drive my stalker wife crazy
