Absolutely with you here.
IU would also say that in order to change the hearts and minds of those whom we disagree with, we need to be open to their input as well. Here's my example:
WHen I worked in WY and was doing a lot of commission work, there was a COmmissioner, Kerry Powers, who hated wolves, and was a rancher and real estate agent. We butted heads a lot, often times with less than kind words. After his 4-6 years we ended up being friends, because we would sit down and talk, and most importantly, we would listen to each other. Not in the sense of listening to respond, but listening to learn why the other person was advocating for what they were. At the end of my time in Wyoming, we were pushing an in-stream flow bill that we all knew was dead in the water. It was the 10th time or so that we had tried this bill, but the farm bureau, farmers union & stockgrowers would just kill it in committee. I asked Kerry to breakfast, and he, myself and Trout Unlimited sat down and talked about why in-stream flows were good for ranchers, not for trout, but for people. Once he saw what live water does to property values, and for livestock, he changed his mind on the issue and helped push the bill out of committee.
If I had spent the previous years fighting his fire with fire, we would have not made any progress. We both still disagreed on a ton of issues, but we were friends enough to find that middle ground and get something good done. The bill came out of committee, and died on the floor. We expected that, but getting it out of committee was the goal, as was turning a few no votes into yes votes for the future effort to establish better stream health.