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Dougfirtree

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Pulling for you and your family @JLS

Anyone in your situation would be struggling to keep it together sometimes, to not dwell on the 'what-if's' and to find a balance between family and taking care of yourself too. It sounds to me like you're doing an admirable job of these things and the communication that is happening in your family does seem like a positive sign, even if things are still scary and hard.

Good luck in your interview!
 

FoodIsMemories

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She went in for a counseling appointment and was directly referred to a behavioral health facility. She said she doesn’t know if they will want her to do inpatient or outpatient.

I’m a $*)Q!#@$ wreck and I have a job interview via zoom in 20 minutes…
Wow wtf.!? Either she said something very very off the wall directly to the councilor or they don’t want to take the time to speak with her about her feelings. Just wanna send her to the “joint” is what it sounds like to me. Maybe there’s more to it but it sounds like a lazy councilor… good luck on the interview. You may not be all smiles during, but keep that chin high.
 

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Our daughter, (my step) faced challenges to the extent she was referred to an inpatient therapy setting.

She attended YBGR. Yellowstone Boys and Girls Ranch, in Billings. They accept Medicaid, if that's an option available. Hard decisions. If you are trying to get a feel for the benefits vs cons, my wife is a solid person you and (or) your wife are always welcome to touch base.


It's a great setting with education and a Christian based organization though not a forced application. I'm sure you're faced with many challenges though it's part of the process to evaluate if it's a valuable action to take or not. Decisions had to be made for us and, in the end, we believe she benefited from the structured setting. We did not want a hospital setting and this is far from such. Horses / farming to crafts, athletics, etc.

You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
 

Nameless Range

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Don't know what to say, other than you are a good man JLS. In your admirable love of family - in your duty - you have, are, and will suffer for them. That's what we do for the people we love. That's what fathers do. I am thinking of you and your family on this day and am praying for the outcomes that lead to better days.
 

2rocky

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JLS I'm thinking of you man. You are a good Dad and Husband.

I'm glad your daughter was able to get some inpatient help. I wish there was an easy answer.

I truly think given the circumstances, your get an A+ for today. A lot of us woulda checked out, but you stayed strong. Someone she and the rest of your family could rely on. Be Grateful for that, and keep living man.
 

BuzzH

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Hang tough JLS, you'll all get through it.

I can say as per always, I'm disappointed in the US and how we choose NOT to deal with mental health and provide the support that is needed to truly help people.

It's borderline disgust for me that the richest country on earth can't do more for mental health.

We need to do better, and its not like there isn't a model...

 

JLS

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Also, to all who’ve sent PMs, if I haven’t answered I’m not ignoring you. My mind is fried. I’ve read each one and appreciate all that each of you have written.

We got to spend about a half hour with her before she was taken upstairs. She’s exhausted. Her mind is absolute turmoil and she has forgotten what peace even is.

I’m praying they can help her sort out the puzzle, and learn how to ignore the noise of lies so she can process the truths in life.
 

RobertD

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Thank you all. She was admitted for inpatient treatment. We just got home from taking her some stuff. When we were gathering things to take to her, I found notes she was writing. I almost threw up.

Praise God she ended up there today…
I can't imagine the notes buddy, that's horrible, but just focus on the little victory of getting her in treatment today. You're a good dad and your dedication is really admirable.
 

Hunting Wife

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Thank you all. She was admitted for inpatient treatment. We just got home from taking her some stuff. When we were gathering things to take to her, I found notes she was writing. I almost threw up.

Praise God she ended up there today…
I can’t imagine how terrible that must have been.

But she spoke up. That is a great thing. And her parents have clearly created an environment in which that seemed to her like the right thing to do. That is a victory and a credit to you as parents, though it might not feel like much right now.
 

Salmonchaser

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Prayers for you buddy. It is so important she reached out and you and your wife were there to answer.
 
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Stocker

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I wish I had some advice or words of wisdom, but alls I can do is pray for you, your daughter, and your family.


Insurance is the most frustrating thing in the world, my only advice there is get your daughter through this and forget fighting with the insurance company until she’s better. I haven’t dealt with anything lik you are now but my wife had a large medical procedure a few years ago and of course the cost and things weigh on a person. Forget it for now, there’s time to worry about it later and once your daughter gets back to herself and on track the monetary and financial stuff won’t seem that important as having her healthy and safe.
 

Nick87

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The availability of mental health help is atrocious. If you’re on state Medicaid you have options. If you have private insurance you’ll find endless frustration with providers not set up for that, and/or who only deal with Medicaid patients.
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My insurance is about as good as it gets, doesn't seem to matter. Wife needs to get in to see a endocrinologist (like right now) and my two year needs to see a pediatric ENT. She has been on the phone for two weeks best the wife can find is February for a specialist and March for the the two year old. What a $*)Q!#@$ joke. So I guess my point is it's not just mental health, however I agree the mental health side is even worse.
 
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Jbotto

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I’m keeping your family in my prayers for a long time @JLS. Keep your own chin up, but you’re doing a great job right now.
 

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