I agree on the Mossberg personally (or an 870 with a Heads Up stock), but I can't convince my wife that a pump would be a good fit for her. I get it, it'd be like me trying to run a semi-auto, I can do it, but it's just not a great fit for my mentality.Not 100% sure if they make a youth stock but the Stroger overunders are freakin fantastic. My dad bought one 20 years ago and I would rabbit hunt with it all the time, easy to aim. But generally I use my 20g pump for just about anything. My rem 1100 mostly sits and looks pretty in the safe while the mossburg 500 20g pump gets all the work. I see that you had mechanical issues with your wifes so I would suggest a mossburg for pure reliability. I have beat the piss out of that thing since I was a kid and it has been a great gun. They are also cheap and plentiful.
As to that, I kinda married out of my league, but don't let her know that; it's worked out well for 14 years. My gear tends to be mid-level on price, but the older I get the more I understand getting the best gear you can afford when you can. That way you do end up spending less than if you are constantly swapping stuff out for the next-best model. To each their own though, and sometimes there is value in just getting something to get started with. That's why we set her up with the best in class that we could get for her right off the bat, it just made sense for her not to take the roudabout/expensive path I did.my god, i'm not even on the same planet lol