Marriage advise

neffa3

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My favorite episode yet. I laughed constantly. I will say you didn't focus nearly enough on the pre-marriage aspect which in my mind is way more critical than most people think. So much of the actual marriage friction is based on a lack to time, effort, and attention in the pre-engagement phase. You have to suss out who you're actually dealing with, where those side boards are now, where they'll be in the future. As part of that I don't encourage guys to go above and beyond during the courting phase. I like to say I set the bar low, real low. Then once your married all you can do is over-achieve. So far it's worked for me.

I will also add that you, Big Fin, clearly treat you wife like a queen, and rightfully so. I know I'm more than guilty of not doing this from time to time. It was a great reminder to up my game, all it takes is a little more effort and remembering how much I care.
 

JTHOMP

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Just finished listening to it as well. Very much enjoyed it.
Suggestion for Part 2.....can yall go into more detail on introducing your spouse to hunting especially with bringing in the woman's prospective?

I took my ex girl friend hunting once. I learned since then that consistently ssssh-ing and tell her not to drag her feet when slipping through the woods was NOT the way to start things out.
Current girl friend loves to fish. I'll have to keep her on the water over the summer to keep her happy. When it comes to eating meat she isn't big into it unless it's coming from a known source or she has a part in obtaining it which I love and respect about her. So I introduced her to squirrel meat and now she likes it so much she is ready to kill some next season. When it comes to other animals and even squirrels to some degree she still has a soft heart and doesn't want to kill. All kills deserve respect, and I'm glad some remorse is there, but you have to be able to pull the trigger and witness death to hunt. Her particular idea behind not being able to kill a deer is because the eyes resemble horses too much and she loves horses.

Questions for the next discussion
1) Tips of what to do, what not to do, other things to consider when taking your partner hunting? Do you really lower your expectations and decrease the intensities of your hunt everytime they are with you?
2) She having a soft heart is common among many women. Does that trait go away as you become more experienced in hunting?
 
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dmrbigeshott

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Great podcast that I would imagine just about everyone listening could relate to....therefore it was VERY HELPFUL. At 27 years old, I've been with my Lady for 7+ years and we're getting hitched in May.

Something that may be worth touching/spending more time on during part 2 is the importance of not pushing someone too much to go hunting; especially if you are trying to introduce them to it. That is a tactic that, from what I've seen, almost always backfires and pushes the person more away from hunting/fishing than the desired result of bringing them closer.

It should never be a point of contention in the relationship if your Lady or Fella doesn't want to go.

Again, very valuable advice given and am looking forward to part 2. A good podcast would be about best practices getting kids involved and adults involved in hunting who aren't familiar.
 

aws1963

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Got a chance to listen with headphones at work today while doing some tedious follow up emails. My coworkers think I'm nuts since I burst out laughing several times. What a great podcast. Being married for 31 years, I completely relate to everything that was said.

If you are newly Married or if you are in a committed relationship, take the advice given as TRUTH.

"If I only knew 31 years ago what I know now" is so true!
 

HoytHntr4

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Agree with everyone else that this was a great podcast that gave me a good amount of laughs listening to it. Randy, any chance your wife would come on and do a follow up podcast about marital advice after being married to you for 30 years? I know you have said many times that she will not be on camera, but maybe she would be willing to be on a podcast?
 
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