Great message. After offending, befriending, then "infatuating" my soulmate we have been married this month for 36 of the happiest years of life.
That's some sensible courtin' right there....Great message. After offending, befriending, then "infatuating" my soulmate we have been married this month for 36 of the happiest years of life.
Note: as a friend I once cut firewood and delivered it to her, as she was a single mom. Jokingly, I remind her of "persuading" me to marry her with the point that "I would only have to cut firewood for one place!"
Again, reassuring to hear that I'm not the only one who has been there.
That sounds just as bad as a trip to the boat ramp. I've seen at least a dozen marriages end right there.
Life is good brother !
I knew it was coming...Relish the sinful pleasures of an unplanned midlife crisis. When God hands you lemons, make Lemonade.
You can screw things up if you want to.
I was married for 34 years until my ex started to accuse me of wild things, like being a drug dealer and buying a house and car for her co worker and yada, yada, yada. On the advice of a marriage couselor I drove all the way to Colorado Springs to take a polygraph test that she got to write the questions for, When the results came back that I was telling the truth, she refused to believe the polygraph. So counseling can only help if both parties want to find a solution, if one has already checked out, then divorce is the answer. Anyway our divorce was final on May 20, she was remarried by June 27.
That statement in itself bodes well for your life and love of life ahead. Good on you!
Hoping the best for your family and you can find a way to be as supportive of each other as possible. Reading this bring me back a few years, we're probably close in age. My wife had definitely gone through a funk after having our first two girls. Post partum depression is a MFer man. There is a good chance thats whats going on. Can last a long time, especially is its never acknowledged. Not that you need her to acknowledge it, but have you ever considered it?
"I am going to spend a lot of time with her at her condo on the beach in Mazatlan."
That never crossed my mind but you definitely might be on to something. I appreciate the sound advice!
My wife has struggled with PPD for 15 month already and it's caused her to come pretty close to ending our marriage. It's an awful thing to see your partner go through.
yes the condo in Mazatlan is a great place to do some therapy. Especially in January, February and March.
mighty long therapy session. I'm jealous.
My wife went through it after our first, but not nearly at all after #2 and #3. Her key was getting time away from me and the kid(s) with friends/family that she trusted and could be totally honest with. Sometimes she needed to say, out loud and without judgment, "I hate being a mom (right now). This change in my life sucks and is not at all what I was expecting." Our culture might recoil at those statements, but having a kid is a major (MAJOR) life change and it's not always what it's cracked up to be.
