When a friend asks you to keep receipts

[thusby]

That’s cheapskate behavior, it only gets worse from here.

 

[belshawelk]

Wouldn't work for me. The three of us that hunt together every year for over 20 years have never once asked for money or kept track of money. Our argument is fighting over who can pay bill first before the other grabs it.

Granted we are all in a position to be able to pay everything ourselves.

 

[X13]

Not weird to ask to keep track of expenses for the purposes of splitting at the end.

Would be weird if he says "I'm paying you nothing since you didn't keep the receipts".\

We used to keep exact numbers on who paid for what when we were (more) poor, but have relaxed over the years. Rotating gas, food, fuel, lodging, etc. Vehicle owner is at the bottom of the gas rotation and non-owners pay to get the truck serviced, washed, and vacuumed at the end of the trip.

 

[Baerman]

A good friend of mine is like this too. At first I was puzzled but after getting used to keeping track of every penny, it simply keeps you both 50/50 without questioning any expenses. It's as fair of a system as you could ask for.

 

[idelkslayer]

I see it as someone who wants to be sure that they pay their fair share. It isn't a trust problem. I see it as a sign of respect. It ensures that down the road nobody can get offended or misremember being the guy that always pays for more. It is making sure everything is split even so nobody gets their feelings hurt. It is proactive.

It could just as easily be argued that the guy who doesn't want to keep receipts is the one with something to hide and is less trustworthy.

 

[Jorgy]

so taking pictures of 3 receipts is just a step too far for you?
for example, when I buy a half a beef from my sister, I always ask hanging weight, cost per #. Not that I think she will swindle me, but I keep track of that because I like to keep track of that. I've never "questioned" my sister over prices, i just want to know

 

[np307]

I don't think it's necessarily a problem, but it's not how me or any of the guys I hunt with operate. We all live with the motto "it'll all come out in the wash." Chris filled the boat up so I'm going to buy lunch. I drove my truck so Jason is buying an extra gas stop. Those kinds of things. When we had a lease together, whoever saw we needed more corn went and bought some. Are there times you feel like you're getting shortchanged? Sure. But everyone's an adult about it and either realizes it's not that big of a deal or if they really feel they were treated unfairly they have a grown-up conversation about it. That doesn't work for everybody but it works pretty well for my group of friends.

 

[Johnny Bravo]

Maybe they want to track it from year to year so not a trust thing, they just want to see how it keeps going up and up?

 

[gouch]

I always keep all my receipts. Of course, I keep them on the floor of the passenger side of my truck but they're all there if you look for them long enough.

I bought a tree to plant in my yard awhile back. Thing died four months later. Sure enough, after a little digging I found the receipt and got a refund.

 

[Bruce54]

Normal behavior for my hunting buddy and me. We use Splitwise app to track. No chance of hard feelings with this.

 

[ashersdad]

Normal behavior for my hunting buddy and me. We use Splitwise app to track. No chance of hard feelings with this.

I used Tricount this year on our Alaska fishing trip. I'm sure it's similar to Splitwise. Makes it super easy to split things up even if you're doing different percentages for different people. Easy peasy.

 

[NR_Hunter]

I just tell my buddies to send me a Venmo request and then I pay it.

 

[DRAFTSTUD]

Does he physically match you in your hunting efforts? Does he bring things like a 4 wheeler or Side by side you might both use? I hauled a 4 horse trailer with my truck with my friend along paying the cost of Diesel. I am 69 years old, I wore my friends out with my trips and we had a blast! Now some are too old and some have died, don't let money be the thing that decides your friendships. John

 

[Richard22]

Good and healthy discussion.

I sent him a message admitting the truth, that I mistakenly threw away the receipts while cleaning the clutter from my truck and that I would just pay the total. He evidently read between the lines and replied back the receipts aren't necessary and what he had paid for lime. I'm thinking his original ask may have been driven more by his wife keeping tabs on what he spends on deer hunting. We've known each other for many years and this is the first time he's asked for receipts. It's all good.

 

[Richard22]

Does he physically match you in your hunting efforts? Does he bring things like a 4 wheeler or Side by side you might both use? I hauled a 4 horse trailer with my truck with my friend along paying the cost of Diesel. I am 69 years old, I wore my friends out with my trips and we had a blast! Now some are too old and some have died, don't let money be the thing that decides your friendships. John

Very much so, which is why I was very surprised when he asked me to keep receipts. Both of us watch very closely to make sure we're each sharing the load at our lease.

 

[Jnasa]

It would be a little awkward. However, I also get it. I’ve seen 50/50 splits turn into 70/30 without much realization.

Some people also just like to keep track. If it’s odd to you talk it over with the buddy to see reasoning.

 

[tormenter]

It always spells trouble when the spouse gets involved or feel she should be involved - ha ha!

 

[nwihunter]

It doesn’t sound like a big deal to me if he’s a good friend. I do go on hunting or fishing trips with buddies which isn’t to often and only with people I know very well. What I started doing on a few of our trips is one guy pays for everything with his credit card, this way it’s very easy to total up at the end. I’m talking gas, lodging, meals, and anything else that comes along during the trip. We had to replace broken boat props and other incidentals over the years all going on the card. At the end of the trip the card holder totals up his charges and it gets splits evenly. It’s worked well for me. Also I might add that the guys I go with would never question my total nor would I theirs. If I’m going to spend a week in the woods hunting or in a boat fishing with someone it’s going to be someone I fully trust.

 

[Shaq2424]

Find a new hunting partner.

 

[hank4elk]

Yeah sure,you betcha.........my file is the floorboard,passenger side only. The seat is always full of something.