Times you fail as a dad :)

[Moosie]

OK, so I have a pretty open relationship with my kids. They ask me stuff and I tell them. I don't let them know everything free handedly but I answer question as they come up. I like that approach and have an "OK" relationship with them because of it. When the "F" word was asked a few years ago to mom she freaked and told them not to worry about it. When I got home I didn't agree with that approach so I went straight over to him and told him what it was and that he shouldn't use it..... too often

Any-who.... So O-Town, Zach and me were chillling in the room tonight telling stories and talking like we do alot and I asked them the question I often Ask "Any new words lately" ? Zach busted out the word Faggot. So, I told him a definition of what I thougt it meant, yaddy yaddy. Also volenteered some other words they might hear that means the same. Told them about name calling, saying mean things and moved on.

So, we go on with the conversation and Oscar says he heard a joke on the buss that he knows is bad but wants to tell me. I'm like, Shoot, tell me your joke.

He says :

Whats the Difference between Simba and Obama?
Simba is a African Lion, and Obama is a Lieing African.....

So, as the "dad of the year" I probably failed at this point. I laughed.

I did shake my head and we had the long talk again WHY that is wrong. Zachary had no clue why it was funny or what Simba had to do with the new President. Which made me laugh as well.

At any rate, I think I handled it OK but still shake my head at the Joke. And more so because my 11 year old, spellig Bee Champ, Top readr in the school, kid that helps and loves eveyone, told me the joke. Sure, at 11 I think I was in Louisiana back country telling dirty and racial jokes that make that one look like a Church joke but what is a pops to do ?

Any of you hear stuff from your kids and have to go into the "Spiel" with them ?

 

[Nut]

More than once Oscar have I had to do the correct thing despite laughing inside. It gets more difficult once they turn into teenagers and know everything.

When they was younger they learned all the bad stuff from me first. Now they learn it everywhere else.

 

[1_pointer]

When they was younger they learned all the bad stuff from me first. Now they learn it everywhere else.

That's good...and true! I imagine once I have that revelation it'll be a sad, sad day...

Moosie- I get in trouble around the homestead myself by not being able to control my giggles sometimes. Beings 'S' is only 17 mos old it doesn't have the same gravity as the stories you told, but then again he does somethings that just make me giggle...

 

[JoseCuervo]

Traveling on the airlines around the world, I learned, or, fell into a habit of trying to always "work the system" and get a better flight, or a better seat, or an upgrade, or whatever I thought I could get.

In order to get some of the "perks" that I felt I needed, I was never beyond "stretching the truth", or "failing to provide all the facts" in order to get upgraded from Business Class to First Class or something similar.

So, I am taking my kids to Alaska one time and there was some sort of SNAFU with the airline. I don't even remember the issue, but likely something that would cause us to miss the plane in Seattle and have to spend more time at an airport waiting, instead of being in Alaska.

I automatically started fabricating some story to the ticket agent, and then, suddenly, stop as I look at my kids listening......

 

[cjcj]

Thanks for "Outing" yourself Jose...that took some doing

 

[Nut]

stop as I look at my kids listening......

Thanks for reminding me of that. The look they are giving you at that time will just kill a Dad.|oo

 

[Whiskers]

My oldest son was about 7 and was riding his bike on the sidewalk in front of our house. A neighbor lady called and said Mike (my son) rode his bike up behind her and yelled "get the #*^@#* outta the way". I apologized, and told her I would speak to him. As I was telling my wife about it, he came into the house. I grabbed him by the shirt collar and drug him back to our bedroom (I have never spanked my kids, so no worry there). I asked him what he said, and where he heard it, (well you can guess who he heard that word from, it wasn't his Mom). I give him a lecture and sent him to his room to contemplate his sins. I walked into the kitchen and my wife asked what I said to him. I told her, " I explalined to him that the next time he tells someone to get the #*^@#* outta the way to put a Mam or Sir on that!" She Freaked, took me 10 minutes to explain that I was kidding.

When the boys got into their teens both of them had this thing that if they went out once with a girl, they thought they had a relationship. This led to alot of little broken hearts around our house. My wife asked me to give the boys some dating advice.
I sat down with them, and tried to explain, but was getting nowhere. Finally I said, if your going to buy a car, you probably are going to drive alot of them before you settle on the one you want. Your going to like some better than others, but there will be one that you really like, and you won't know it until you drive more than one car. You can imagine how their minds interpurted that. They immediatley told Mom, Pop said "you should ride a lot of girls before settling for the one you like to ride the best!" That took alot of explaing to.

 

[Nemont]

My son goes up and stays with his cousins on the my inlaws ranch every summer. Kind of a rough crew that are about three years older then him. He returns with not only some stories that make me shake my head but also with a new and no so improved vocabulary.

When he was 6 he just got home from a month long stay at the ranch, my wife got lunch ready for him and he takes a piece of watermelon and announces, "Man this is a big "F ing" piece of watermelon". My wife just about passed out I think, I had to hear about it in detail when I got home. I explained to him why we shouldn't use that word and sort of what it meant, He gets a funny look on his face and says, "You mean like screwing". My wife was ready to end all contact between him and her nephews.

Nemont

 

[schmalts]

I was never beyond "stretching the truth", or "failing to provide all the facts" ......

Gee what a surprise

 

[guppie9]

My wife bought me a shirt in Canada that says "Real Men Eat Beaver". My 10 year old niece was visiting from AZ and saw the shirt (I wasn't thinking about it when I put it on). She gets kind of a funny look and her face and says, "Do you really eat beaver?" I get a little flustered, but told her, yes, I do. That night she is talking to her father (my brother) on the phone and says, "Hey, guess what? Uncle K eats beaver!!!" Needless to say, I had some explaining to do.

 

[wyoming556]

No cussing allowed

 

[fowladdict]

No cussing allowed

Those weren't Moosie's rules five years ago.

 

[noharleyyet]

Those weren't Moosie's rules five years ago.

I honestly wish I had been more vernacular selective with my children's ears.

 

[fowladdict]

I honestly wish I had been more vernacular selective with my children's ears.

Judging from your posts, your kids turned out just fine, but I hear ya! Just make sure grandpa keeps it PG.

 

[Big Fin]

WYO556 - I edited your post in #11. You continue to break the rules by using the "F" word with more frequency than any person on this forum. When you get another PM telling you that your language is inappropriate, you go dig up threads from years ago, prior to when I was the owner of this site, to show some cussing. Not a good way to be granted much more tolerance, especially since this same sequence of events occurred with you recently.

To all who struggle with the agreement they made when they signed up, that they would use clean language, keep it clean.

I have a long fuse, but when it comes to stuff like this and responses such as you see here, when asked to follow the rules, I no longer have a fuse - expect immediate explosion.

Oh, and WYO, I changed my mind. Enjoy posting elsewhere.

 

[putm2sleep]

My kids' ears grow keener by the day. I thought my wife turned into Magnum PI when we got married. Nothing gets by the kids. A fart, a thought, a smurk a twerk, a cuss, a tasteless joke, my commentary on crummy politicians, policy, entitlements or bad coaching on Sundays.
Learned to shut my mouth more. Trying hard to let them become who they will be, their own person without my influence sometimes. My son or daughter might just like free health care, not having to work hard for a living, skinnier jeans and phone watches, FOR FREE, and free food ---- a world where if I raised them wrong and they were spoiled enough and screw up, why they get off 'scott free'

These situations and learning opportunities need to be in a book for dad's.
Must remember we are role models, leaders, creators!

 

[MN Public Hunter]

Just sit them in front of the TV and let them watch Duck Dynasty....They will have MANY more questions you can answer...LOL or should I say just let them read the interviews in the magazines.

 

[Colberjs]

Interesting way to bump a thread.

But, I am always the more lenient parent of the two. Drives my wife crazy and I kinda like it that way. Haha.

 

[huntRme]

Never had to worry about my son. Now, his oldest sister was another matter. I enjoy honest talks with my son about serious things - my advice, my mistakes, my successes, my love for him, time together. He knows all the words, but will not let them cross his lips, and we get a good laugh without that sort of thing. I'm glad he's my son.

 

[DaveHawk]

The best part is they are talking with you. Telling you things. If you can keep that going through the teen years life is so much more at ease.
My boys all would tell me where they were going and who they would be with. They found out Dad was a good go to guy if they ran into trouble. So if they did not tell me and something happened they knew they would pay for it. But all in all they kept their nose clean.