Guns , girlfriend and married
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pre6422hornet
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Man. I procured 99% my guns before I got married. She knew what I had. Same as I knew about her shoes. Has she bought a few since then ( 15 years ago)??? probably... Have I bought a few guns ??? yes...
belshawelk
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No. Nor we would I ask her to give up something. If you don’t like it now it will get worse. I have been married 1 time. This year will be 34 years. My wife doesn’t do guns, or hunting. But she understands how important it is to me. It’s never been a problem. My girls don’t hunt and don’t shoot. My wife has a few things like craft fairs, stamping and making greeting cards. I don’t understand it but she enjoys it. So I am happy for her and support her. You can’t expect people to change for you. If it’s wrong now it’ll be worse later. Like a catholic marrying a JW or a Jewish marrying an LDS thinking one will drop their belief and join yours. It’s asking for problems.
bobbydean
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You know what your have when you get into the situation.
Bigjay73
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Would you give up your saws & hammers?
VikingsGuy
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If already married and for some unexplained reason my wife did a 180 and truly expected me to give up guns, then the guns would go - marriage is for life - she and the kids are more important than any possession.
If in the alternative, not yet married, dating a girlfriend who stuck to such a demand, then time to move on and find someone new, no sense being with someone who expects you to give up lawful interests and hobbies for them - find someone who supports you in what you love (and return the favor) and you will find the right one - start horse-trading things one another have to give up to make it work is just an expensive and painful path to a bad relationship - divorce ain't cheap.
If in the alternative, not yet married, dating a girlfriend who stuck to such a demand, then time to move on and find someone new, no sense being with someone who expects you to give up lawful interests and hobbies for them - find someone who supports you in what you love (and return the favor) and you will find the right one - start horse-trading things one another have to give up to make it work is just an expensive and painful path to a bad relationship - divorce ain't cheap.
Outlaw99
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I’d give up my left nut first
Of the guns, yes?
Brittany Chukarman
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Run. Run like the wind.
MarvB
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Well..... a good woman is hard to come by! ....but damn, guns might even be harder to get ahold of these days....
I had a discussion with my girlfriend (now wife) a couple months into dating She wasn’t anti-hunting or anti-gun, just didn’t like them.
it was a polite conversation but I remember saying nicely that “I’m not willing to give up my shooting sports and hunting. Please be aware of that now”. 12 years later and she still loves me
she even enjoys going to the range now
if it’s a “give them up or I’m gone” ultimatum, that’s the first of many........
be ready to have your nuts in a jar on display for her and her friends
it was a polite conversation but I remember saying nicely that “I’m not willing to give up my shooting sports and hunting. Please be aware of that now”. 12 years later and she still loves me
she even enjoys going to the range now
if it’s a “give them up or I’m gone” ultimatum, that’s the first of many........
be ready to have your nuts in a jar on display for her and her friends
Nick87
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What a stupid question.
Gellar
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No.
Tom_Nguyen
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When I first started dating my now GF of 3.5 years, I was in the process of building at AR15 for the first time. Keep in mind, this was during a time of some very high profile mass shootings that used AR15s, so the phrase "AR 15 Assault Rifle" was being thrown around a ton in the news.
My GF came over, and when she arrived I was in the basement working on the gun. She asked what I was doing before she got there, and I decided that it was time to broach the topic of my firearm ownership. She knew I hunted but I wasn't totally sure how she felt about guns yet. I told her the truth, that was "working on a gun", hoping the questioning would end there. It did not end there.
She asked "what kind of gun?"
and I said "oh just an AR15", in attempt to downplay it as much as I could.
She kind of had a long pause and then asked "Isn't that the gun that everyone hates right now?"
I winced a little bit, "yeaaah"
She just laughed and said "thats funny" and couldn't have cared less. Knew she was keeper right then and there.
My GF came over, and when she arrived I was in the basement working on the gun. She asked what I was doing before she got there, and I decided that it was time to broach the topic of my firearm ownership. She knew I hunted but I wasn't totally sure how she felt about guns yet. I told her the truth, that was "working on a gun", hoping the questioning would end there. It did not end there.
She asked "what kind of gun?"
and I said "oh just an AR15", in attempt to downplay it as much as I could.
She kind of had a long pause and then asked "Isn't that the gun that everyone hates right now?"
I winced a little bit, "yeaaah"
She just laughed and said "thats funny" and couldn't have cared less. Knew she was keeper right then and there.
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deer_shooter
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No. Not a chance.
