I really hesitate to provide my input because my experience and yours or everyone else's is different.
In reality, a properly designed/sized scope ring/scope/mounting system probably shouldn't be affected by having "just the exact right torque." Having too little torque is definitely a problem. Bolts need stretch to provide proper clamping load without becoming loose. If the design is worth owning, it shouldn't distort because of those little bitty screws being "over" torqued.
The torque of a bolt/screw is in actuality, a sloppy approximation with a range in order to estimate how much the fastener has stretched. Oil, loctite, dry, or whatever will affect the amount of stretch applied when using a "torque" wrench. If you look at the mounting instructions for rings, they generally don't specify what to use. My guess is they have a wide range of being OK.
So, too little, it'll get loose. Way too much, the fastener will go into the "plastic" zone and never hold a good clamping force. Can someone who does this all the time or maybe turns a lot of wrenches get it to where it'll work fine without using a torque wrench? For a joint like this, that is properly designed, yes, they can.
I didn't use a torque wrench on my last scope mount. The rifle has for over a year of shooting (about 200-250 rounds) held zero and will put 10 rounds cold to hot in under an inch. It wouldn't do that if I really screwed up the torque. If it doesn't get loose, it'll be good.
Also, here is a pretty good write up on scope mounting. It's really good and he does specify torque values, but he shows him using an torx key to do it.

I should probably ask if he actually used a torque wrench, but I'm guessing not. He shoots probably more than all of us on this site put together and has a clue about how to shoot. The nail polish is actually a pretty good trick, it'll tell you if they get loose. Also, oil/lubrication is the enemy here.
After multiple requests for an explanation of how to mount a scope in order to have the lowest possible chance of loss in zero, I took some pics of what I do with a rifle when I get it and how I mount scopes (or anything with screws). To start- a bit of background of why I say what I sa...
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